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Is it rude to enforce a dress code at a wedding?

My family likes to dress very casual, and some do not get dressed up at all. Is it rude to ask the men to wear suit/ties and the women to dress up?

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If people don't know how to dress for a formal affair, you should definitely tell them. You don't want them to stand out. It's not rude at all.
Not at all.
Nope, when it's your wedding you can slob out, but others get to run their wedding their way.
A wedding is not typically a casual event, like a backyard BBQ. The weddiing party wants it to be formal and guests should dress accordingly.
No it is not rude at all. The bride sets the standards for her wedding. So if she wishes it to be formal then all who she chooses to invite should comply out of respect. She can have the dress code she wishes on the invitations. Cissie
Not at all. The people hosting an event get to determine the formality (or not) of it. If the invitation says "black tie," not doing so would be very rude. If it says "casual," than that is the expectation as well. There is a bit of a two-way thing here - some people do not even know what "black tie" even means. However, it would be very disrespectful to assert your own ideas on someone else's party. What if your were a nudist? Should you have the right to appear at a formal function not wearing anything?
It isn't really "rude" to enforce a dress code. MOST people understand that going to a wedding requires some dressing up. If you are planning a wedding and want to make it a little less formal a daytime wedding would be better. You might want to mention in the invitation that it semi-formal attire is acquired. If you and and your SO to be are set on a more formal event, then evening or afternoon is better and you can put in the invite that it is to be a "black tie/ dress" affair. This tells the invitee that men must wear a tuxedo and women are to wear cocktail dresses. The above IS the etiquette of the situation, but if someone shows up in something a little less dressy than you want, I doubt you will even care at that point, you will be so wrapped up in your day that you probably won't even notice. I couldn't really tell you what my guests wore; that wasn't and still isn't important. It was one the best days of my life because I was MARRYING the man I love. : ) Good luck and enjoy your up and coming wedding day!
Noway people nowadays need to know how to stop wearing trash to everything they go to. Weddings are meant to be romantic, and woderful not know everyday thing. So no Casual please! unless this is some backyard redneck party. You need to have the men in a well suited tux and the women in matching colors or theme dresses.
It's a wedding. You should get dressed up.
all you can do is put the dress code on the invitation. Most people will follow it. Call it 'black tie' or 'cocktail' depending.
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It isn't rude to put it in the invitation, it isn't rude for you to help some of the less couth to fine an outfit, but it is totally WRONG to have fashion police at the church or reception and turn anyone away. It's just one of the things you have to deal with in life, I guess. But please don't send poor ol' dumb toothless Jessie and his cousin Abner out on the street if they showed up in overalls with bibs, and dragging along those banjos.
no it is fine to enforce the dress code. this day is about your wedding and how you would like your guest to be dressed for the occasion. I simply put down" on the direction card ... " Please dress your best , all the ladies are coming to impress" it worked out fine and got my point across.