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More wedding drama -What would you do?

I asked here about my maids going barefoot at our outdoor garden ceremony. One suggestion was the boys wear flipflops. My FI mentioned it to his brother this was his response to me "I was talking to my brother as a friend and as the best man offering my opinion as such. I honestly don't feel comfortable (and embarassed) wearing flipflops to a 6pm wedding.We as groomsmen will be the most underdressed there.We went to a 6pm outdoor wedding where everyone was wearing a suit and all the ladies were wearing formal wear.I was simply offering my opinion and didnt mean to hurt feelings However, there are other people to consider here besides you.Bottomline:wearing flipflops is disrespectful to the audience,groomsmen, preacher and the ceremony.All will be dressed appropiately to attend an evening wedding. They are respecting you guys by bringing out their best attire and I feel we should return that respect" -Hes also mad about the boys not wearing ties(with casual khaki tuxes).Thoughts? The girls asked if they could go barefoot.

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You should tell your guests that the wedding is very casual too! Then it is not disrespectful and your bridal party will not feel out of place.
Let the guys wear shoes.. casual shoes, perhaps, but shoes all the same. No ties for the boys, though. Don't back down on that one. No ties would be cute and keep it a bit casual.
well, i am allergic to grass and products used on grass. i would find it most rude to have to walk around barefoot and get all itchy. not to mention spending all the money looking so awesome and gorgeous...and then no shoes like i am taking a walk on the beach. flipflops+formal wear=tacky i suppose the ONLY exception to this is the beach, i would be more interested in the idea there
It's your wedding. Do what you want to do. Personally I would prefer casual, flip-flops sound nice. Don't let people boss you around on this. It's your wedding, it's choice, make the dress code the way you will enjoy it most, the way you want to remember it in pictures, and the way YOU will feel most comfortable. Just like the classic ugly bridesmaids dresses... no matter how you have to dress, once you get there you just have a good time. Its a celebration, for you, make it yours!!
Tell him it is your wedding and he should respect your decision. I don't know what country you are in but in Australia people do all sorts of fun stuff like that. My favourite photo from my wedding 2 months ago is of me on the beach barefoot with the sunset in the background. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable, and tell the groomsman to pull the stick out of his butt!
He wants something sober to accompany this rather sober time
Oh boy! This brother either has too much time on his hands... OR... is more comfortable telling you things that your fiance isn't. Could this REALLY be coming from your fiance? Perhaps he doesn't have the heart to tell you himself? Consider his personality and see if that might be the case. Personally, I would never ask anyone to wear flip flops or go barefoot in a garden wedding. It's just TOO casual for my taste. And as an attendant OR guest, I would notice and feel a little odd.... especially in the evening. However, it is your wedding, and up to you AND your fiance what you like. I have to say, I actually do agree with the brother on this one.... maybe he shouldn't butt in... but on the otherhand, perhaps he is also trying to look out for his brother.
He seems to have alot of problems and maybe he needs to come up a solution. Fashionable
Personally I would prefer a wedding by the beach if you want your maids to go bearfoot and the boys to wear flipflops. Any way it's only a suggestion. But don't you think I may be right? Best wishes :)
You and your fiance are the ones who determine the formality of the wedding. If you want casual, then go casual. Flip flops or cute little sandals are okay, if that is what you want. Your fi needs to tell his brother that the decision has been made. When brother-in-law weds, his wedding can be as formal as he wants it to be . . . but this time it is your wedding (yours and your fi's) and it is going to be casual. Then continue your casual theme with casual invitations. Let guests know that casual dress is fine. Tell the officiant he doesn't have to wear a tie. Let the parents know, so they can select casual attire as well. It is really up to you and your fi. It is not your future brother-in-law's decision. It is impossible to please everyone all the time. In this case, just make your decision and stick with it.
Well, I don't know why your future brother-in-law felt the need to get involved. "There are other people to consider here"-its your wedding! That being said, I think that he has a point. A few things to consider: -How formal are the females dresses for them to go barefoot? If the guys are wearing khaki tuxes, then I do think that flip-flops would look odd with the outfit. -Have you been to the area where the ceremony will be taking place? I've been to a few garden ceremonies and some gardens are quite formal-I think barefoot would have looked odd. In addition, there are logistics to think about-if it rains the day before the ground will be soaked, etc -If you do decide to do this, let the guests know in the invite. Maybe a description like informal attire, BBQ attire, summer casual to let guests expect this.
One of my really good friends got married in March, and she bought her 'maids pink flip flops, and she wore ivory flip flops, (They all had pearls on them). I had no idea that they were wearing flip flops until a week after the wedding, because they were wearing floor length formal dresses. I say buy flip flops. Wearing dyed and uncomfortable shoes is crappy. It's bad enough that they'll have to wear expensive and uncomfortable undergarments, and do their hair, etc....And for the tie thing. Screw the ties. I know I'm not going to make my boy and his men wear ties. And they will THANK me for it.
What about some nice mockins it will be casual but be a bit formal as well or they go barefoot aswell. Girls look great barefooted but guys look horrible in flip flops
Bottom line...its your wedding. If you and your fiance want bare feet and flip flops, then thats that. This brother needs to stop thinking like an old woman, relax and realize that you are the belle of the ball...not him! If he can't reconcile your wedding plans with his delicate fashion sensibilities, then he should wear his respectful, appropriate dress shoes IN THE AUDIENCE!
Maybe he is uncomfortable not wearing shoes my hubby has such tender feet he cannot go outside without shoes and won't wear flip flops because they are to uncomfy between the toes. Maybe they could get some slip on Vans in a color that matches the tuxes and go without ties. If the girls are OK not wearing shoes that doesn't mean the guys need to go barefoot. I think there may be another reason he is against the bare feet. maybe he has fungus toes or funky toes that embarrass him. you could just have shoes optional not everyone needs to match perfectly but give them a style like the Vans slip ons that you request they wear if barefoot is not OK.