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Ladies: how would you feel about a wedding ceremony where the man wore the veil?

I have never been fond of the fact that when the veil is lifted, the traditional way of thinking is that the male now "possesses" the female in the marriage. It seems so old-fashioned and outdated - I am very much in charge in my relationship and part of me would love it if my fiance actuallt wore the veil during the ceremony over a traditional suit. What do others think? Probably that i'm crazy which is probably true but i've thought and been fascinated by this for a long time.

Public Comments

1. It would be awkwardddd
2. oh no, please no.
3. Holy fuck that sounds stupid, how feminine do you want to make the guy out to be? You'll turn the guy gay with that tactic.
4. Weird and funny! A veil definitely looks better on a woman than a man.
5. That is not the reasoning behind the tradition. It was to signify the unveiling of a virgin. Outdated, yes. But you can blame religion for the inequities between the sexes, and the last two thousand years of social and cultural norms. Thankfully, sexism is on the decline but people like you will see it everywhere, and will decry it so loudly and so often that it will always be with us, regardless of how we move on as a society. Feminists do not want equality, they want authority. This is seen everywhere. That ad where the two women have severe colds but are busy busy busy, and one asks where the others husband is. "Oh he's in bed with a cold, bless him." A stereotypical view of men and their man flu. Contrast with Andy Gray making fun of a female linesman, and he loses his job and every panel show from Loose Women to Question Time discusses the "inherent sexism still evident in our society". Your question perfectly demonstrates this - the veil tradition is beneath a woman but it's fine for your spineless betrothed.
6. Well, I would like to say that the "Lifting of the veil" is not to say that the groom "possess" the bride, but rather veils were worn by women who were virgins at the time of the wedding and lifting the veil was left until after vows were said as a sign that she was now religiously allowed to give away her virginity.. It is a sign of purity. As for your boyfriend wearing the veil, because "you wear the pants in your relationship" and believe it is a way to show that you now possess him.That to me is a very demeaning statement and action you are asking him to take. Why would you want to do that to the man you love? If you told me (or if my husband ever told me) that the reason he wanted me to wear veil was because he wanted to show that "he wears the pants and now possess me" there would be no wedding for me to wear the veil too that I can promise... Let me add in here that if I said something like that to my future husband I would also expect him to leave me. There is most certainly a level of respect missing your relationship on your part. You do not respect his man hood and are so afraid of people viewing you as the "weak" woman (because women are traditionally seen as weak) that you have gone overboard and lost sight of the fact that it is not right for anyone person to view any other person as a possession or any one spouse to view another spouse as "The boss" it is suppose to be an equal partnership built on love and respect. which it sounds to me you have no respect for this man. Why not just neither of you wear a veil??? They aren't a requirement you know..
7. I think you are emasculating and embarrassing him. Is he gay?
8. i would honestly cringe.it makes a mockery of a sacred ceremony.if you feel that strongly about the veil and its 'statement' then simply don't have one.there is no need to have your man wear it instead
9. That would be way of the ballpark..extremely silly..
10. If you want to humiliate your new husband and he agrees, that is your business. Why don't you stay single, I have a feeling its not going to last very long if you have to be in control of your marriage. How about 50/50?
11. honestly people don't think of the veil that way anymore than the man owns her. It's more of a tradition and you don't have to have a veil if you really don't want it. That may be better than him doing the veil. You don't want to emasculate him too much either ;-P
12. Stupid idea, unless of course he's a virgin.
13. Ridiculous. If you feel the veil somehow represents ownership, do away with the veil.
14. You mean the blusher. I would feel it was silly. Why must anyone be "in charge"?
15. That's just wrong, sexist and feminist. You don't own him just as he doesn't own you.
16. no way, you mad
17. I think it is awful and tacky If you don't like veils or the idea of them don't wear one or use it in that sense Its that simple
18. And does he get to wear the dress as well? For goodness sake!